8 Things I Dislike About Myself
February 16, 2011 § 5 Comments
1. I dislike being a pessimist - There are times when I wish I was a more optimistic person but that just isn’t the case. I always seem to view situations and people from a negative point of view. I usually keep my thoughts to myself because I don’t want to seem as negative as I can be. I feel that being optimistic about things gives you more hope and helps you to have a more positive outlook on life.
2. I dislike being impatient - I’m a very impatient person and it’s an aspect of my personality that I’m working to change. Because of my impatience, I’ve said and done things that I regret.
3. I dislike being judgemental - I try not to judge people because I believe that you never really know what someone is going through. After I see someone doing the same things, behaving the same way, and making the same mistakes over and over again and then complaining about the negative results their actions bring them, I start to become judgemental. I have to remember that people grow and mature at a different pace and that I should be more understanding.
4. I dislike that I don’t trust people – When I first meet someone, I never trust them. It’s only after I slowly get to know them that I began to trust. Because I’m so distrustful, I feel that I’m always looking for a reason not to trust a person. I don’t think this is a healthy approach to forming a relationship with anyone.
5. I dislike that I’m not a friendly person - I’ve never been a friendly person and this makes me wonder if I’ve missed out on possible friendships because I seem too aloof. The truth is that I’m comfortable being alone and I don’t go out of my way to be open to others. I’ve recently met some new people so I’m making sure that they know that I’m interested in being friends and getting to know them.
6. I dislike that I get annoyed easily - I get annoyed and irritated at the smallest things and I wish that wasn’t the case.
7. I dislike that I’m a very sensitive person – I feel this is my Achilles heel. Since I’m so sensitive, I tend to take things personally. I also feel this is one of the reasons why I get easily depressed.
8. I dislike that I hold grudges – I hold grudges towards people who have deeply hurt me. Even after years have passed, I won’t let things go. I don’t talk about the people I hold grudges against but I feel that the fact that I’m even holding a grudge pollutes my soul.
Until I got depressed and fatigued, I was overly optimistic. The fact that you are writing this post is a positive exercise in itself and demonstrates the ability to change and grow.
All the items on your list can be practiced. Take the one thing you don’t like and make a conscious effort to focus on it for one month. An easier way is to learn how to “stop complaining” and you will find several of those traits improve.
The list in itself has several items that I have had to practice at to improve. Although introverted, being friendly was always pretty easy.
BTW…love your day rate. If you want to conquer number 1…try making every day 5 Stars for one week. Just get up and think it.
All the items on the list are things that I would like to improve on and I thank you for your advice. I’m taking things one day at a time and I’m trying to be more grateful for the positive things that are happening in my life which helps me not to dwell on the negative.
I love the day rates also. It’s a great way for me to reflex on how I’m feeling. My goal is to have a 5 star day and I need to work on not letting stress get me down.
Nina…if you keep working as zealously as you currently are that 5 star day will be here pretty soon. Besides spring is almost here.
Many years ago when I was depressed and feeling negative, I decided to turn things on their head and love whatever there was out there for me to love, not just people. This completely changed my life, and I realize now that I moved from a negative to a positive perspective which turns out to have an interesting side effect in that it makes you much more attractive. Just the simple act of loving, opens you emotionally – it’s liberating.
I agree with you about how being loving opens you emotionally. This year I’m working to accept myself for who I am and I know that I can be a negative person at time. Since I’ve accepted this fact about myself, I’ve actually started to become a more positive person in many ways. I catch the negativity coming and I stop myself from going there. I still allow myself to feel the feelings that I’m having but I’ve also learned how to be more objective.